I'm pleased to have my online friend Joan Davis as my guest today in the "Comparing Ourselves to Others...and what it does to us" series. Joan writes from her heart at The Beauty of His Grip where she encourages women in their personal relationship with Jesus. You can also find her on Facebook. Please use the comment section to make her feel welcome here today. ~ Laura
A few weeks
ago, I had a mini crisis in the beauty department. I woke up on a normal Monday
morning of a very busy week, expecting to go through my usual
routine. But then, I looked in the mirror and what I saw didn’t seem right to me. I turned on the bright overhead light and pulled my magnifying mirror out
of the drawer to take a closer look. As soon as I was able to focus clearly on
my face, I instantly saw a red swelling beginning in my right eyelid. “That’s strange,”
I thought, and for a few seconds I didn’t realize what was wrong. Then, it
dawned on me that I had a sty. I had
never had one before, but figured this must be what they looked like.
Determined
to fix it, I went to the first place so many of us go to when seeking advice -
Google J. I read about some home remedies and when it
was recommended to go to the doctor. I decided to give it a little bit of time
and then decide what to do. By the time I was finished visiting with my
mother two hours later, the swelling had doubled in size and there was quite a
bit of pain. So, off to the doctor I went. My diagnosis was correct and he
loaded me up on very strong antibiotics and a lovely eye gel to use four times
a day.
The next day
was my Bible study, and being very self-conscious, I instantly told everyone
what was wrong with my face…in fact, as ridiculous as it sounds, I even
e-mailed them before I arrived so they would be prepared for what I felt was
grotesque. I knew I was silly warning them that I didn’t look like myself, but
I was also incredibly embarrassed of my appearance.
After Bible
study, my week was a busy one. I had errands to run—in public, gasp! And I had
appointments to keep. I couldn’t hide out in my home like I wanted to. Logically,
I understood that what I looked like didn’t matter, but emotionally and
self-consciously I kept on comparing myself to…myself! “I don’t normally look this way,” I said, knowing I sounded silly, and I would go ahead and assure
everyone I came across that I wasn’t contagious.
To add to my
misery, my face broke out in red marks that I hadn’t had since
I was a teenager. They were a sign of my “not young anymore” skin. The
antibiotics made me feel sick to my stomach and I was not feeling very
feminine. It was not a “pretty” week for me. For the most part, even though I wanted
to hide my face, I kept a sense of humor, and mulled over the idea that God was
trying to teach me a lesson in humility.
As I think
back on it now, I realize it wasn’t really vanity or lack of humility with
which I was dealing. It was lack of confidence, the kind of confidence you only
get when you put your faith in God before your physical challenges. I was so
caught up in what I looked like and what people would think when they saw me
that I was not focused on God. I was allowing the “idol” of my appearance to
hinder my growth and relationship with Him. And amazingly, I was missing the
lesson that God was trying to teach me.
Charm is deceptive,
and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears
the LORD is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30 NIV
As we go
forward in life, our appearances will change. That is a guarantee. But, as each year passes and unexpected
illness and age come, our inner appearance can grow more beautiful with each
day. If we keep our focus where it should be and allow God to continue His work
in us we will be transformed more and more into the beautiful likeness of
Christ. We don’t need to worry about what other people think of us—it is only
God’s opinion that truly matters.
But let your adorning
be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty
of a gentle and quiet
spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. 1 Peter 3:4 ESV
It may have
taken a few days, but I finally did get the message. I had been putting my
appearance above what was in my heart and focusing on the outside rather than
on what God sees and wants for me. My emphasis was on my temporal shell and not
on what really matters. The result was a woman who was self-absorbed,
self-conscious, and stifled in her service to God. That is not the kind of
woman I want to be. I want to be a woman who pleases the Lord in everything I
do! So I am welcoming His transforming hands on my life! May He continue to
teach me and form me into a woman whose imperishable beauty is found within her
heart.
*****
Joan Davis
has been a blogger at The
Beauty in His Grip for the past 4 years. She began blogging out of her
thankfulness to God for His redeeming hand on her life. She believes that
everything happens for a reason and the life-lessons learned along the way
should be shared with others in order to build up the body for Christ. It is her
desire is to encourage other women through the lessons that God has taught her.
Joan shares
the incredible truth that we can never fall so far that we are beyond the reach
of God. There are no lost causes, for He
loves us all. It doesn’t matter how rocky our pasts, God will always accept us
when we surrender our lives to Him. With Christ we can live a life filled with
abundant joy simply by knowing and experiencing Him through His mercy, grace
and unfailing love. Through both smooth and challenging times in her life, Joan
has seen God’s faithfulness and now looks at each day as a new day to celebrate
His goodness!
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Mirror
The older you get, the harder it can be! I am my worst critic but I know that what's on the inside is more important than the exterior. I can identify with Joan's words and the mini-crisis she went through. But I love how she came to the place where she recognized what she was doing. She got back to what God sees her and focused on her heart.
ReplyDeleteThanks for an encouraging post Joan!
Blessings and love,
Debbie
Hi Debbie! It's so nice to see a familiar face over here at Laura's blog! We don't always like the process we go through when learning lessons from God, do we? But, when we turn our focus to Him and allow Him to mold and shape us, we are transformed into the women He wants us to be! What a joy that is!
DeleteBlessings, Joan
Very wise words from a woman who is beautiful - both inside and out!
ReplyDeleteAsking the Lord to help me let go of outside appearances and concentrate on developing the quiet and gentle spirit that is so pleasing to Him!
GOD BLESS!
Happy Easter!
Hi Sharon! That is my desire, too - to be able to let go of outside appearances and allow God to develop an inner character that truly blesses Him!
DeleteBlessings, Joan
"We don’t need to worry about what other people think of us—it is only God’s opinion that truly matters." I'm working on it...really, really focusing on knowing deep down in my heart that His opinion is the only one that matters. Posts like this beautiful one friend are great encouragement. THANK YOU. I've missed you. Much love to you.
ReplyDeleteHi Beth! I'm so glad you were encouraged by this post! What a blessing it is to have a God who loves us no matter what! I am so thankful for His shaping hands on my life!
DeleteBlessings Friend! Joan
I am thankful for gravity that keeps me "grounded," but not for what it is doing to my skin. I know the truth and fight the battle, but some days it's just hard. We live in a society obsessed with youth and beauty. Striving to come to peace with aging and focus on maturing in faith. Thanks for this beautiful reminder.
ReplyDeleteHi, Joan! Oh, how I get that struggle to not let appearance and the outside crowd out how God sees me...which is more important than how others see me or I see myself. ..it seems to be a lesson I have had to learn again and again. Sorry to hear your weren't feeling well, to top it off! Thanking the Lord, though, that every week is not as rough as that! Blessings to you, my friend! :)
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