Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Failing Does Not Mean I’m a Failure

Welcome! This week we’re studying Chapter 7, “When Doubt Whispers ‘I’m Such a Failure’” in A Confident Heart by Renee Swope.

What do we do when we’ve failed, whether it’s through our own doing, or maybe through circumstances caused by another’s actions?

As author, Renee Swope, points out, Jesus knew his disciple Peter would fail him. But Jesus saw something Peter probably didn’t know about himself—Jesus saw Peter’s faith and his potential. Jesus saw not only who Peter was, but who Peter would become.

Jesus sees the same in us. He knows we’re going to fail at times. He also knows the times we fail are opportunities for growth, in our faith, and in who we are becoming.

So, what can we do when we’ve failed? We can ask Him to help us get back up on our feet, to show us what we need learn, and how we can move forward.

Sometimes I wonder if God sees me as a child who has to learn the lesson for myself. His Word tells me right from wrong, but I do what's wrong anyway. Then I have to face the consequences of my actions, and learn my lesson the hard way. Much like a young child who doesn’t believe when told the stove is hot, but who touches it anyway. I have to find out for myself.

Satan likes our stubbornness and when we fail. He condemns us and wants us constantly feeling guilty. Like rubbing salt in a wound, he reminds us of our failures, and wants us to believe that we can do no better.

But that’s a lie. Just as Jesus saw Peter’s potential, He sees ours.

Jesus loves us so much—He’ll meet us where we are. But He loves us too much to leave us there. He convicts us of our sin, and shows us the way out. He knows our heart and blesses us with His forgiveness.

When we fail, do we forgive ourselves or do we carry the guilt and shame around like baggage? When God forgives, He chooses to remember our sins no more. (Jeremiah 31:34) When God forgives us, we need to forgive ourselves. If that’s something we struggle with, we need to ask Him for help. Forgiveness draws us closer to God, and allows us to move forward.

There is a song I want to leave you with today. We sang it in worship service this past weekend and these lyrics have stayed with me.

“So take me as You find me, All my fears and failures, Fill my life again.” (Mighty to Save, written by Reuben Morgan and Ben Fielding, performed by Hillsong)

In Christ,


  1. "Jesus loves us so much—He’ll meet us where we are. But He loves us too much to leave us there."

    I think we forget the fact {at least I do} that He loves us too much to leave us where we are... I loved this chapter's explanation about the difference between conviction and condemnation - what a great picture of the relationship that our God wants to have with us!

  2. Reading A Confident Heart has helped me realize that when I struggle with self-doubt and insecurity, I am not alone. I feel normal, loved, accepted, and approved by a mighty God. I feel empowered and reminded that God truly does have a plan. The twists and turns of Renee's life gently remind me that all of our lives have highs and lows and moments of uncertainty; yet God longs for all of us to find our confidence in Him.


Thank you for sharing your thoughts!